My job is starting soon and up until this point I've always had other people living with me. My boyfriend won't move in with me for another 3 weeks and I'm not really sure what to do with myself. I'll be going to work during the week but I'm worried I'll either disappear into Netflix binges and sleeping or just spend all my time at work. I also tend to get mildly paranoid about sounds and shadows when I'm home alone in the evenings. Any advice or ideas on how to stay healthy and sane while I'm home alone would be very appreciated.
This is so exciting! The first time having the place to yourself! No one to look at you like you're crazy for doing whatever you feel like.
Walk around the house completely naked. If you're worried about hygiene have a small towel to sit on.
Eat ice cream for dinner. Ice cream with pizza!
Build a blanket fort and watch Netflix.
These are all things you can do with your boyfriend living with you, but it is extra special when you're on your own.
As for scary noises, I tend to feel better if I have a hitting stick nearby: baseball bat, piece of pipe, 3ft dildo. Practice sneaking around the house as well. You'll feel like a ninja AND know the quietest way to get out of the house/behind them to whack them with a dildo if there is an intruder. It is extremely unlikely that anything will happen but I usually feel better if I have an escape plan in place.
schedule a day for groceries and plan your meals so that you just don't end up eating whatever's easy to grab which will most likely be stuff that's unhealthy. Especially when you're tired from work and you just wanna get over dinner or whatever.
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Try to wake up at a decent time everyday. For me it helps to leave the bedroom curtains open so the sun helps wake me up. Schedule some treat yo self nights but have healthy quick foods available as well. If you aren’t working yet, set up a reading nest and read a book!
Embrace it! Walk around with no pants on! Raid the fridge! Whatever you want! 😁
When you're alone in your apartment that means you can do anything.
My fruatration is people who say that they wouldnt have an abortion but other women should be able to have them and so they call themselves
Also idk what to make of the hypocrisy of the "pro-life except in cases of rape, incest, medical risk, etc". The foetus's life that they claim to prize so highly suddenly becomes unimportant if the woman carrying it seems "innocent of the pregnancy" in their eyes? Ick. Pick a lane Judgy McJudgerson, either the foetus is always more important than the mother or always less.
There is clearly a lot of people who have such a misrepresented view of the pro-choice position, that even when they completely with it they think they're either in some intermediate compromise or closer to pro-life.
I suspect those are people who have been brainwashed to think pro-choice is literally an evil position and pro-life is correct, but they are deeply pro-choice leading them to re-invent the pro-choice position from scratch without ever looking up into the label since it's wrong and obviously not what they believe.
This is, unfortunately, pretty common with religious women. Vaginisums is usually caused by anxiety around sex- sometimes because of sexual trauma, but sometimes because the girl was been taught her whole life that sex is dirty and sinful.
my gf has this issue, and she deals with similar feelings. Not being able to meet what is considered a normal relationship expectation by society can be really, really tough.
This is why i make fun of straight people for thinking PIV sex is the only imaginable sex and christians for fucking over themselves
Kinda shitty because I just moved in and I have panic attacks/reactions to that low bass thumps of people stomping in their house.
I had to deal with this previously and I thought I was good and now I have to start over again. :c
I know this wasn't the right relationship for me in the long run, but right now it really, really hurts.
It all started when he was picking fights with me and in turn driving me away. Due to my distance, he says I made him feel neglected and unloved for over a month. Two weeks ago things came to a head and we broke up, but I missed him so incredibly that after a day we got back together and we both stated we'd work on our differences (his being his short temper and picking fights over menial things) and mine (being more empathetic to his feelings and trying to put him first more).
After two weeks it still didn't feel the same. I still felt distant from him. Like a piece was missing. I couldn't revive our spark, and I couldn't get past all of the cruel and mean things he would say when he was angry. They replayed in my head so often.
So last night I ended things with him, and I'm really hurting. I miss him and I keep thinking about all the good times we had. I just wanted him to be the person he was when we first started dating. My heart is broken in a million little pieces and reality is hitting me like a freight train.
I feel your pain. My ex boyfriend (we broke up last week) use to complain about the smallest things, used to say he was thinking about breaking up with me and I was always understanding. It got to a point where I was changing the way dress, talk etc. Because of his complaints.
Eventually he did break up with me and I thought about all the things he didn't let me do... He asked me to come back but I don't want it anymore. It fucking hurt badly, but it helped me understand things from a different perspective.
So, you say that you put him first as if it was a defect, but to other people, this might be a quality. You are just kind, and that's great! Dont feel guilty about it.
Take care of yourself, use this time to connect to the things that make yourself YOU, maybe things you couldn't do in the relationship, get to know yourself. You seem to be a lovely person, so get connected with you! In my case, writing down what I feel really helped.
If you have to come back together or not, you may realize it after getting to know yourself. It's completely okay to feel pain now, be patient and take care. ♥️
I'm about 3 months into being single and I've never been happier. I'm working towards the things I love everyday instead of putting energy into something that's not working. I do still miss him, but I stay focused on what I have now. I hope in a few months you will be as happy as I am today. If you need to talk pm me.
I recommend Guy Winch’s TED Talk about heartbreak. It helped me so much when I was trying to recover from a devastating breakup.
I’ve found this meme to be really accurate in my life.
Let yourself feel your feelings, I promise you’ll be happy in the future.
Pap smears aren't recommended yearly anymore. Pap smears aren't risk free (mostly due to false positives), so they're only recommended every three years.
For about a month or so, my cousin has been going to the Doctor because she has been feeling pains in her abdominal region.
What has been suspected as cervical cancer has now been confirmed as stage 3 cervical cancer. There are also 2 more tumors, 1 on the back, and 1 on her abdominal region.
Please keep up with your yearly well-woman checkups so if you do end up with this nasty and horrible cancer, it would most likely be detected early.
Early detection makes the world of a difference.
Always get your Pap smear! Also, I made the mistake of going on my period (I’m on BC so it’s a bit lighter than it would be otherwise) and my doc said she could still do it but that it might be more painful. She was right, hurt like a bitch.
Learn from my mistake and don’t do it during that week.
Tik tok is life
Why did they screenshot the definition of belie?
In the past I was groomed by this guy 10 years older than me that was disturbingly surprised that I spelled "caffeine" correctly in a text, and he responded "wow, you're smart, most women can't do that."
And that was only one problematic thing that he said/did, shining a crystal clear light on what he thinks about women. I told him "I hate you" and stopped acknowledging his existence years ago, but part of me wishes I had kicked him in the balls a few times.
So not only is he calling her photo "fake", but also calling her stupid by explaining what the word belie means?
It's a two in one combo of "I think you are fake and stupid". Just plain rude.
Awww bless isn't he proud of that fancy word he learnt!
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Nice GuyThis image belies your true self quite drastically.Nice Guy[screenshot of the definition of 'belie', taken from Google]OPI know what belie means, thanks tho 👍/u/mary0111I'm not sure why you posted a screenshot of your choice of word??? Like, are you implying that OP isn't clever enough to know that pretty common word, or are you trying to show off how intelligent you think you are?
This image belies your true self quite drastically.
[screenshot of the definition of 'belie', taken from Google]
I know what belie means, thanks tho 👍
I'm not sure why you posted a screenshot of your choice of word??? Like, are you implying that OP isn't clever enough to know that pretty common word, or are you trying to show off how intelligent you think you are?
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Yea but the dog's abused and the cop probably beats their family so I'll take the guy getting bit.
Source is this parody of JoJo's Bizarre Adventure Part 5 (time stamp is ~3:06)
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